A new mom is reconsidering her role in a friend’s wedding after a dispute over a bachelorette weekend.
The woman, 28, shared her story on Reddit’s “Am I the A” forum. She explained that she recently gave birth to her second child in February. The bride-to-be, her longtime friend, has planned a bachelorette trip for Mother’s Day weekend.
However, the new mom says she can’t attend. The event falls on a meaningful weekend, and she is still breastfeeding her newborn son. Traveling four hours away simply isn’t possible right now.
This led to serious tension between the friends. The bride, she said, responded with anger.
According to the post, the woman tried to explain her absence kindly. “I truly wish I could go,” she told her friend, “but I can’t leave my baby yet.”
Despite her efforts, the bride became upset. She told her friend not to speak to her “anytime in the near future.” She added that they’d talk again at the rehearsal dinner.
“I don’t appreciate her making me feel like a bad person,” the woman wrote. Her story highlights a growing theme: motherhood comes first.
The woman said she’s questioning their friendship now. She described the bride as controlling and often unreasonable when things don’t go her way.
“This might be the last straw for me,” she admitted. “I don’t know if I still want to be in the wedding.”
Reddit users overwhelmingly supported the mom’s decision. Many said the bride was being selfish and unrealistic.
One comment said, “You’re doing the right thing for your child. That matters more than any party.”
Another added, “Her attitude sealed the deal. Your family comes first. Don’t feel guilty about that.”
Some commenters did try to see both sides. A few pointed out that people without kids often don’t understand postpartum life.
One suggestion was to plan a separate celebration. “Maybe take her out for dinner or shopping instead,” someone wrote. “Make her feel special another way.”
But most readers agreed: motherhood comes first. They urged the woman not to feel bad for putting her baby’s needs first.
In the end, many said the same thing. A true friend would understand. After all, motherhood comes first.
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